Wants and Standards

Tony Robbins has many jobs, but he’s mostly a motivational coach. Unlike thousands of other motivational coaches he has a direct and immediate wisdom, without any bullshit. I’m grateful I found him. Not that I need coaching.

What he’s saying: If you want to achieve something, you should know that wanting is not enough (and at the same time too much). Wanting to get in shape by going to the gym won’t get you far. You’ll need willpower to go on with your New Year’s resolutions, and willpower never lasts. Most people ditch their resolutions by January 16th.

If you want to get somewhere, you don’t need force. Take a look at what you have already achieved: a degree or your own home, a job or a won competition. Things you have achieved are part of your standards, and thus of your identity. If you think know you’re someone who has or needs a degree, you will get a degree. Your standards make you you. It’s so simple that it makes me dizzy.

Notes on Instagram

Since about a year now I’ve been posting things on Instagram. In the meantime I was watching what everybody else was doing. It took me a long while to realize that not everybody is doing boring stuff. What I consider boring is sticking to the same genre and even subject, doing the same thing over and over again. Someone will only post landscapes, someone else will only post food pictures.



I’m not saying that sticking to the same theme is bad, it can be good in a meditative sense, of seeing a theme in different variations, or light, or perspective. The problem is only that I doubt that people would do it for awareness reasons.

During my research I stumbled upon Instagram groups, which are called pods in the insider circles. This pod thing is going nuts right now, it’s all over Facebook, in fact I think this is getting absurd. Consider the following picture:

The point of the whole thing: If you have a group of people who have similar accounts, they can support each other by engaging in others’ posts. The goal is, as so often, to get more followers, likes and such.

Ultimately this means that all these people are taking their landscape photos, being in a niche, so they can increase their public exposure (to put it nicely).

Now, as a consequence, I feel myself trapped in a conflict: What should you go for, consistency or personal integrity (authenticity)? Are you serving an audience or are you being yourself? Both is kind of legit, I don’t need to explain the being yourself thing, and doing something for an audience makes sense because social relevance is a good point — your work should matter to someone else, that’s why it’s public.

Doesn’t matter how long I think about it, I think that if you want more followers, the content of your stuff doesn’t matter. That thing you’re doing becomes irrelevant.

Of course, you might object, most people don’t do so much thinking. They want fame, and they’re trying to get it. However, as Tony Robbins (who once coached Steve Jobs among others) said, “Wants don’t (consistently) get you anywhere, standards do.” Your follower number can’t be your standard. I actually need to write a separate article about this.

Why I’m fascinated by Versace

One fine day I saw an interview with Ricky Martin, right after which the interviewer went nuts because she was a huge fan of Ricky Martin. While she was expressing her admiration by going like “Oh my God”, thinking that the camera is off, Ricky Martin was watching the whole spectacle and smiling. Eventually everybody noticed that they were still on air, and started freaking out collectively.

Ricky Martin Interview (Link)

Cute story, but anyhow, Ricky Martin was giving an interview, and it evolved around the 2nd season of American Crime Story, which he was part of. It’s about the assassination of Gianni Versace.

So I went on to watch the American Crime Story trailer and found it so beautiful that it instantly caught my attention. Then I watched several documentaries about Gianni Versace and his killer Andrew Cunanan.

Shortly after, I watched the second episode (accidentally) of American Crime Story, and then the first (and then the third). This non-linear viewing felt natural, as the narrative time of the story is fragmented anyway.

Frame from the trailer

Before I say anything more, see for yourself. Things have to do with vibes and so on.


Due to the sloppiness that’s in my blood I managed to wait since last summer with the removal of the ban. Bye bye, ban, hello new blog.

I’m yet to figure out where this is going, but at least I have a brand new starting point. Might import the entire history since 2006 sometime, and then it will become apparent that this place underwent quite a few changes.

If you’re here for the first time: Welcome! Don’t expect anything like a niche blogging here.